For an informal, casual shower the host generally picks up all the costs, but for a more elaborate shower the host may talk to the other bridesmaids at the beginning of the planning process and ask them about chipping in or splitting costs. Beyond financial assistance, the host can and should ask the bridesmaids to help plan, set up, decorate, etc.
Traditionally: Just before the wedding or a few months before. Our Take: Give yourself time to set a venue, send out invites before people's calendars are set, etc. Also, keep the couple in mind: Will they be too overwhelmed to enjoy a relaxing shindig if it's really close to the wedding?
by Margo D. Pelt on Jul 30, 2018 Bridal Shower